Author: Sally Goldfinger
Do you often say yes, when you deep down mean no?
It’s not easy for everyone to express their truest emotions. But it’s something which is crucial to do in order to feel complete and happy with how we live our lives.
When you say yes to things you don’t really want or don’t have time or energy to do:
1. You disrespect yourself
2. You are not real
3. You put yourself last
When you express your needs you actually relive a lot of at stress from yourself. Because it’s stressful to always say yes when you don’t feel it’s a yes. And it’s stressful and unhealthy to suppress your emotions.
Nobody knows how you feel. Only you do. No one can guess what you think. Only you do. Self expression will free you and it will free everyone around you too.
You are not a better friend or a better partner or a better business collaborator or a better work colleague if you always say yes and try to please others all the time. In fact, it makes you fake. It’s disloyal.
So next time someone asks you a question verbally or via a text message, answer honestly. Don’t ignore it.
Don’t say something which isn’t from your heart. Don’t say yes, when you mean no. Instead, say no, when you feel it’s no. The truth never hurts. And you won’t be a happier person if you try to please people every day.
HOW TO SAY NO WITH LOVE
Saying no, doesn’t have to sound harsh. Here are a few ways to say no when you feel it’s a no:
1. I am sorry but I can’t do this today
2. I would love to help but right now I have a lot on my plate. I can’t commit to anything right now
3. I am sorry, but that is not possible
4. I have to prioritise my family who really need me, so I can’t help you this week. Hope you understand
5. I won’t be able to finish all of this. Can we agree to next week?
Speak your truth, always